The Long Distance Equestrian

My husband and I have to plan out our time together, now that I got another job working at a barn. I mostly do barn work  three times a week, from 10-1pm, and then I close at my cafe for the rest of the week. For now, the time management seems pretty easy. I want to keep my barn schedule to Mondays, Wednesdays, and Saturdays. I requested Mondays and Wednesdays off, so those days can be dedicated to barn work, and spending time with the husband when I get home. Closing at my cafe will most likely be Tuesdays, Thursdays, Fridays, Saturdays, and Sundays, depending on how many days they have me scheduled for. I hope I do not get burnt out doing all of this work, and I am glad that my husband is accommodating with his own schedule. I know that he has work tomorrow, so it will probably be a full day with no contact. When in a long distance relationship, it is best to communicate with your significant other about your work schedule, or general schedule for the week, so that it is easier...

It is funny how the holidays seem to fly by! Christmas this year was ok. I enjoyed watching my nephews opening up their presents, and the excitement in their expressive eyes as they unwrap their holiday surprise. I also loved the cookies that my mother bakes every year for Christmas. Her chocolate chip cookies are to die for! I just wish the husband was here to enjoy Christmas with me. It is weird not being with him during the holiday season, and I almost have a void inside my heart during this time of year. It can get especially troubling when seeing couples together on this special season, holding hands, and cuddling close to keep warm from the bitter cold as they walk down the street. Ah, no matter. At least there is hope of celebrating with him next year, and the year after that.  Speaking of which, I have to get his form started. I will start on that tomorrow, either before or after work. At least I've done all my research, although it never hurts to double, and tr...

I detest it when I am not able to sleep at night because of my running thoughts. The thoughts about the distance, and worrying about getting the green card process started to V never seem to end... I want everything to go well in January. I hope that everything will go well, and that I have all the forms and proof needed to prove that my hubby and I have a real relationship. Hell, there are a lot of photos of us together, and millions of various convos from Skype that I could probably send in. However, I need to figure out how to get all that proof sorted an organized, so that it is easier for the people who are going to be looking over it. I hope that the process will be quick, and that V will be able to get his card by September. That way, he does not have to go back to England after he attends my Uncle's wedding. It would suck if he was still in the pending process... then he would have to wait over there. I wish that it was easier. I know that this form filling and ...

Being sick sucks. I feel miserable, my throat feels like it has been stabbed with a thousand daggers, and I had to find coverage for work. Luckily, I did find some coverage, so I can stay at home and try to rest my throat. Looks like it is tea time and other healing aids for me! I remember being sick a few times on visits. The first time, I felt dizzy as hell, and it was right after I got out of work. My hubby (well boyfriend at the time) was dressed in a tuxedo to surprise me. Unfortunately, I did not feel so good. So, he immediately brought me straight to his hotel room to take care of me. I had the chills, felt miserable, stomach was doing flips... yet he stood by me to take care of me. He set me up with a hot bath, and made coffee or hot chocolate for me. That moment made me love him even more. It showed how much he cared for me, and loved me. There was another time, we were both sick. This was during my stay in England for the holidays. That time, we took care of each othe...

It can be really hard, being apart from him sometimes, especially when the holidays are rolling around the corner. My mind turns to thoughts of missing him, and wishing that he was here to share those holiday memories with me, and vice versa. Christmas was enjoyable, when I was together with him. I like having those memories of spending that holiday with him and his family, yet I also wish I could do the same this year. Alas, I will be spending Christmas in the States with my family this year. I guess it should not be something to be sad about too much. I mean, hopefully, him and I will be together soon. Hopefully, it will all work out sometime in the summer of next year, right? Maybe I just have to keep busy with work, and saving money for that new pc, as well as saving money for the application fee for the petition. I hope the time goes by quickly...

So, my husband has been pretty much unreachable since Friday. The only way we can talk, is by him going to McDonald's to borrow the wifi. The good news is, that his net will be able to get fixed. The bad news is, the company told him that it would take from five to seven working days to fix it. So that is basically no contact for almost a week. Sometimes, this kind of thing, can suck, but both my husband and I learn to push through it. After all, we had this kind of thing happen before... though back then, at least he was able to reach me by phone. The phone line is also down, which is sucky. There is a saying; "absence makes the heart grow fonder." I think that this saying can be true. I do miss him when being apart, but when we do meet in person, it is always a joyous reunion. In some ways, I feel closer to him, and I do love that he tries to find ways to contact me, when his connection is acting a bit wonky. I hope that it will be fixed by Friday or sooner, but I d...

So, I had a trip to England from August 24th to October 1st. I loved that I got to spend five weeks with my husband. London was grand, as always. We revisited Camden, and even went to a few new places, like the London Zoo, and the Imperial War Museum. The weather was perfect; in the beginning, it was so hot out, that both of us went out to The Common to sunbathe. In the middle, it started to get a little cooler, but not too cold, and near the end, the cold weather just started to kick in. Eurogamer there was excellent, even though we only went for one day, out of the four days available to us from the ticket. We got to try out The Elder Scrolls Online, and watched a play through demo of Watchdogs. I even got to play around with the character creation on The Sims 4, which was pretty neat! I cannot wait for those games to come out. Coming back to the States was difficult for me... it seemed even more difficult than the last time. I thought it would be easier, but I was wrong. After t...

Sometimes I like to think about the future. I like to think about what I might be doing in the next five, or even ten years. I hope that by then, I will be going to college again, and either major in Psychology, or take some form of journalism. I also hope that I will be working a different job. I do not want to be stuck at the same part time job all my life, no. I want to move on to bigger and better things, someday. I also hope that I will be together with my husband, whether it is in England, or the United States. At this point in time, the distance is really starting to get to me, which is a bit worrisome too... V and I both know that we do not want to be stuck doing this long distance thing forever. We both came to an agreement that if he does not get a more stable job by the end of 2013, then he will come to live in the United States. All I would have to do is fill out the form to get the green card, as well as get a few documents from him... and prove that I can financially su...

nI am suppose to be moving to Pennsylvania with my family in about a month (July 8th is suppose to be the proposed moving date, but it is not official yet.) My family got accepted for the house that we are renting, and my parents are going up on Friday to sign the papers, and meet the guy. I should be excited, and happy for the move right? A new beginning, a fresh start... all that good stuff? Well, to be terribly honest, I am stressed, frustrated, and scared. I am stressed, and a bit frustrated because it feels like I am the only one in this household, really doing anything in my power to find homes for the rest of the pets that we have. (We have five pets, being, a dog and four cats, but we can only take two of them to the rental.) My mother and I have decided to take two of the cats, which leaves me to find homes for the dog, and the other two cats. It feels like the only help I am really getting is help from my friends. I have been posting up on rescue sites online, I made a post...

It is now just about four months away until I see my love again. I am very excited, and cannot wait to see him, once again. I love spending time with V in person. He is a pretty cool dude to hang with, and knows of all the fun things to do in London (well, of course he does, he lives there after all!) Honestly, I don't know what I would do without him. He is the one that keeps me going, and the one that encourages me to work hard at stuff, whether it is working, or my goals. He is an amazing husband, and person. That's all I have to write for now, just to get things off my mind. August needs to come fast.

So, it is true I went to Pax East, and it is true that I had the time of my life there! I went to a few panels, checked out what they had on the expo floor, and got to meet Nova (aka James) and Kootra (aka Jordon). Man, James was an awesome dude too. I luckily got to catch him a while before the meet up and when I saw him I was like "It's you!" I got to tell him how my husband and I were fans of him, and told him about V's new YouTube channel, and to check it out if he can. I appreciate how honest he was, in saying that there were no guarantees that he will check it out, and I also like how he gave me a long hug. He was pretty cool to chat too, and he seemed laid back and very nice. My friends and I also caught him when Pax was about to end, but the poor guy looked so worn out and tired, probably because of the meet up. I went to go check the meet up out, and he and Jordon were surrounded by people, like it was a whole mob of people! It was unbelievable. Well, we ...

Tonight, I have to decide what to pack when I go up to Boston this Friday. I will be going there, along with my friend to visit her boyfriend, and to attend Pax East! What is Pax East? It is kind of like this big gaming convention, where they have panels, contests, tournaments, and many other fun things. Some developers from popular games come there to interact with the fans, as well as developers of new consoles, like the Playstation 4. I am very excited to be attending this convention with my friend, and her boyfriend, even if it is only for one day. However, it will also be a time where I will have limited contact with V. We have had times, where we could not speak to each other as much as we used to, like when he goes away to his mom's house, or when he goes to Santa Pod with his family. It does get hard at times, when he or I are away, but we learn to deal with it, and catch up to each other later. I am also excited about going to Boston for the first time. I have never be...

So here I am, sitting on a bench in the mall, waiting for 11:20am to roll around so I can head up to work and start my shift. Sometimes I love my working days, and other times, I loathe it, but at least I have a job, and at least it is money going toward my next trip. Sometimes, I cannot help but think of when my husband and I would walk the mall together after I was done with work. After all, the hotel where he stayed at was just a small walk away from the mall, so we easily made trips back and forth. I miss the days when he was here, but I know I will see him again in August. That thought makes me more optimistic about going to work most of the time. Well, that is all I have to share.

So, my husband and I have found some creative ways of spending time together while apart. The one that we have done the most, is playing different MMOS. After all, that is how we met... through an MMO that we were both beta testing at the time. Over the years, we have played quite a few MMOS together; Pirates of the Caribbean Online, World of Warcraft, Star Wars: The Old Republic, The Lord of the Rings Online, Runescape, and many, many more. However, I have found myself attached to LOTRO. Why? Well, I have been a big fan of both the books, and the movies. When I heard they were making an MMO based on J.R.R. Tolkien's books, I was thrilled about it, and could not wait for it to come out. When it came time for beta sign ups, I signed up right away, and amazingly, got the chance to beta test the game. This was back in 2004. I was fourteen at the time, and had no job, so my LOTRO playing ended right after the game launched. I did not get into playing it again until around 2010, when ...

I like it when my husband and I Skype together. Our Skype time is like our time to chat, be funny, and trying to be close and affectionate when we are about 3000 or so miles apart from each other. I like the little things he does on there that makes me feel happy, and loved. He can usually make me smile whenever he cracks a joke, or sings. I like it when V sings. I kind of wish he would do it a bit more often. Do not get me wrong, he does sing... but it is usually parody songs to make me laugh. For example, he would take the melody of any well known song, and make up his own lyrics. He is quite good at making up funny, sometimes dirty songs up! I like it when he sings songs from musicals, like Les Miserables, or The Rocky Horror Picture Show. I can tell that he really likes musicals. He will even sing some Disney songs, from time to time. He does not sing these songs that often (maybe he does sing songs from Les Mis a bit more than songs from other musicals), but when he does, I ap...

Ugh, I am so tired today... why am I tired. I stayed up until about 6am talking to my husband. You see, sometimes these things tend to happen in long distance relationships, or at least my long distance relationship. I do not know why I sometimes stay up that late to talk to him. Maybe it is because of my willingness and desire to spend lot of time with him? I did notice that I have been trouble sleeping the past few days. I couldn't sleep at all, so I guess my mind went, "Might as well talk to the hubby a bit." V likes to stay up late too. He will stay up late, playing a game. For example, he stayed up playing Runescape until he had to go to the job centre. He does this almost every Tuesday, or every time he gets engrossed in a game. The funny thing is though, he will do this, and then go back to a normal sleeping schedule like nothing happened. I guess he is strong in that way, where he can go back to sleeping just about normal times. I like staying up late with hi...

Today, is my one year anniversary of marriage! I am so happy to have married such a wonderful, charming, funny man. I can remember the day we married just like it was yesterday. It was a cool, Saturday morning. My hubby and I walked down to the Town Hall to meet with the Justice of Peace. We decided to get married on a bridge, in a lovely park near Town Hall. I remember that I couldn't stop looking into his beautiful blue eyes, as the JOP said the ceremonial vows. I also remember thinking Yes, this is the man that I am going to be spending the rest of my life with. I cannot wait to start our lives together. After the Justice of Peace said those very lines, "You may now kiss," we kissed and hugged each other tightly. I remember feeling relieved, and happy as a clam, glad that we were now husband and wife. What a year it has been as well, so far. I managed to go to England, and I enjoyed it very much! Let me tell you, it was awesome, and it just felt so right being ther...